Thanks for your question and here is my response -
To add to Irene/Arjens advice, yes its important just to be yourself which is a combination of your upbringing, your moral standards, your expectations and future hopes. Oh so many other facets that come into play I dont have the room here to go into them.
In my own Scottish traditional way - If this man really cares and wants a future with you then the last thing on his mind should be being physical.
The last time I looked, women have more in their heads than us mere males and while its fun to date, let the Kenyan guy work out his testosterone in the gym.
Bottom line - You are in charge! Kenyan society is patriarchal and in the villages its the norm that the women/wives etc are there for cooking/working the garden/having sex on demand/producing babies. Dont ask me what the men do as I could be in hot water.
Hope this helps
Archie
Jan 22, 2010
Dating by: Cheryl
I appreciate both of your commments Arjen and Irene. Yes, I want to be myself and get to know him as a person. You are correct, I didn't want to embarrass myself or him by saying or doing something that is cosidered bad in their culture. I have had one date with him, and he didn't talk much....but wanted to be very physical. We shall see the next time we go out. Any other inputs out there? I will take all I can get.
Cheryl
Jan 22, 2010
Date with a Kenyan... by: Irene O.
Ok, in my opinion it doesnt matter which nationality you go out with.. be yourself.. I can imagine that you dont want to get embarrased by doing or saying things which might shock him because of his culture or religion but it is important that you dont act different from who you are.
Only then he might get to know you ' better' and the other way around.
I dont know where your ' date' is living, if he lives as well in the USA then he might be intergrated well and knows how women are in the USA. In general Kenyan men are not extrem different from others unless we talk about specific tribes like the Masai, Samburu, Pokot etc but I guess this is not the ' case'.
They have traditional habbits, a strong culture whereby you as a ' white ' woman could not live with unless you are ready to make a dramatic change.
To find out how this person is, kenyan or not is not the real issue, you must meet him personally.
You will learn more about his back ground and culture and see if you can deal with it.
Have a nice date!
Kind regards
Irene O.
Jan 22, 2010
Kenyan men by: Arjen (webmaster)
My impression is that Kenyan men might be a tad less "emancipated" than men from the USA. But Kenyans as a rule aren't mean machos, they are usually too relaxed and humorous for that. Cultural taboos might differ a lot per tribe, and per individual.
Of course, Kenyans differ from each just as much as Americans do. While the AVERAGE Kenyan might be more or less of this or that, you aren't dating "the average Kenyan" but you are dating a very specific individual. So the only way to find out what he is like, is to get to know him better.
